I am experiencing a difficult crisis. Due to the child’s illness, I had to leave the work. Career, education, communication – all in the past. I thought that it would be possible to cure the child, but it was not possible – he had an autistic spectrum disorder. We live together, there is no husband, parents died. Recently, thoughts have often come that life has failed. The future is not pleasing. I look older than my years. How to find sense?
It is possible that now the answer to your question “How to find meaning?”Would become a few premature. To answer this question, you need to know for a start, and what is it, this meaning? Perhaps not even one, but several meanings. Let’s first discuss what the meaning of life may be for you.
Is it possible to assume that this is a child’s health? Then you are provided with this meaning until the end of your life precisely by virtue of the disease of the child, which will need your love, support, attention and care. And then you will continue to engage in his health as before, as it was before, and possibly in a new way, because autism is not a sentence. This topic is becoming increasingly important in modern society, and new methods of rehabilitation and socialization of such children are constantly emerging.
Is it possible to assume that this is a career, personal development? Perhaps this is your own health and appearance, possibly – personal life and new relationships? Anything can be a personal meaning of life if you have any goal.
If now you are in a crisis, if you are now oppressed and do not rejoice in life, if now you do not see light in the future, this does not mean that everything is exactly as you think from there, from the depths of your crisis and despair generated by it. And to get out of this state, you can choose any goal.
A person is arranged so that everything is connected in it, if you strive for one goal, then you are approaching another way. Therefore, now you can choose what will be your meaning of life in the near future, and step by step move towards this purpose.
It is important that you learn to plan small steps and do not forget to thank yourself for the successes at each of these stages. Perhaps it will be useful for you at the end of the day to write down at least three tasks or completed cases to praise yourself. This
will help to align the level of mood and energy, give you the strength to move on. I wish you success on this path!